Then she said it. “I’m done. Go to therapy or I’m leaving.” You sat across from her at the kitchen table, holding your now-cold coffee mug, trying to understand how you had been so distracted by everything else that you didn’t see this coming. You were stunned. Things had seemed better. You weren’t arguing like
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And then she said, “I want a divorce.” Maybe you’ve heard this story before. From the outside, a divorce looks sudden, but the decision was often made long ago. From the outside, this looks sudden and unexpected. They looked happy enough. The Facebook pictures from their last anniversary dinner show a couple laughing over a
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A Relationship Therapist’s Best Advice You’ve been dating for a while. It’s love. It feels like “forever.” Marriage is the next step. Right? How can you know that you’re ready? The decision to get married can’t be based only on a feeling. It’s one of the biggest, most permanent decisions you will ever make. It