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Relationship Tune-up

You found the right person and made a commitment. It's important to protect your "Happily Ever After."

What you have as a couple is rare and precious. You want to make sure it stays that way. You have too many friends who seemed fine–until they announced they were getting a divorce. You know that you would move heaven and hell to NEVER be in that position.

Your marriage or long-term relationship is everything that you ever wanted, except…

You wish you felt closer to your partner. Since the relationship is good in so many ways, it's hard to put into words what else you need.
A transition is just down the road. You want to sail through it as a team. Sometimes stress can knock you out-of-sync.
Although you work hard to achieve harmony with your partner, sometimes you misunderstand one another. Not enough to cause big arguments, but enough to make you feel a little distant.
You want to "grow together" through the years. Personal and relationship growth are a big priority for you. You want to catch communication and problem-solving issues before they can erode the love you feel for one another.

Although you trust one another, it's hard to communicate about the deep topics. It makes you feel more distant and lonely than you really want.
You and your partner came from vastly different backgrounds. Sometimes it's hard to relate because of the differences.
This is your second try at love. It surprised you when your previous relationship fell apart. You want more from this one.
Blended families are complicated. You want to limit outside influences that cause unnecessary stress in your relationship.
Your partner is dealing with a personal issue that sometimes spills into the relationship. You struggle to know when and how to help, and when to give them space or make allowances for their moodiness.
The intimacy in your relationship has dropped off without a clear reason. You worry that it's a sign of a bigger problem.
You want your kids to have the best possible relationship template for their own future lives.

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You're not looking for absolute perfection.

You recognize that many others would relax and accept that the relationship isn’t going to be perfect. But you’re not the couple who would coast. You recognize and appreciate what you have. In fact, others would be jealous if they knew how truly good this relationship is.

But, you’ve seen too many others coast and have their relationship fall apart. This will NOT be your love story. You want to feel confident that your relationship will weather the inevitable storms and crises that will pop up. And you’re willing to invest in the relationship a little bit every day to keep it that way.

You don't want to take each other for granted or become complacent in your relationship.

Learn more about the process by scheduling a FREE Phone Consultation today.

A Couples Relationship Tune-up is exactly what you need to protect your future.

A Couples Relationship Tune-up is similar and different from Couples Therapy.

When you get a tune-up, it’s about understanding, fine tuning, and enhancing–not about rooting out the core of the problem and transforming the relationship.

What happens in a Tune-up?

1. We will complete a Couples Relationship Checkup. You will learn about the strengths of your relationship and the patterns that need to be improved or adjusted.

2. Based on the Relationship Checkup, we set clear goals that you will complete on your own or with the support of your therapist. These may include:

Learning and practicing new Relationship skills.
Resolving problems around daily living, equitably sharing the workload, avoiding miscommunications, and/or sexual differences.
Developing Healthy Relationship Habits that will continue building your relationship a little everyday to create an unbreakable bond.
Identifying potential future crises that could derail the relationship including extended family issues, personality differences, boredom, and life situation changes.

3. You’ll develop a working relationship with your therapist who will understand who you are and what you need even if you don’t see them very often. They are available for drop-in sessions as the need arises.

4. Together, you’ll choose the ideal frequency to implement your support plan. Based on your individual circumstances, you’ll decide how often to meet with your therapist to support your goals. Many couples complete the Couples Relationship Checkup, meet weekly for a few sessions, then cut back to once a month for ongoing support and accountability.

5. Between sessions, you will work towards your relationship goals. Whether it is practicing a new tool, reading a relationship book, or establishing quality time together, you will have clear goals and homework to work on.

Unsure? Schedule a FREE Phone Consultation to learn how Couples Relationship Tune-up can enhance your relationship.

Life's ups and downs can test even the strongest relationships.

Transitions stress even the best relationships. They can bring up unexpected issues or elevate an irritation into a crisis.

They are also the perfect time to re-evaluate and renegotiate how well your relationship is meeting each partner’s needs.

Expected common life situations that lead to relationship stress are:

Getting engaged
Moving in together
Getting married, even if you lived together before the wedding
Birth of a first child
Weathering a child's diagnosis or mental health crisis
Kids moving out
Retirement
Opening your relationship or changing it's structure
Job change
Relocation
Scary health diagnosis
Individual crises such as depression, anxiety, or postpartum

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Instead of waiting for a relationship crisis and then piecing your lives back together, do the work that prevents the crisis altogether.

A Couples Relationship Tune-up will pay off for many years. Those who work on their relationship during times of calm often experience these benefits:

Feeling closer and happier with their partners.
The relationship feels stronger with every problem they solve as a team.
Finding novel and innovative solutions that feel like a win-win for both partners.
Knowing how to soothe and make their partners happy.
Being more satisfied with the relationship.
Feeling more attuned in life and intimacy.
Having more fun.
Being at peace and content with one another.
Knowing each other at a deeper level.

A Couples Relationship Tune-up is an investment in the relationship. It’s an opportunity to improve the example of relationships that you teach to your kids.

Choose to grow closer because you love one another.

What else do you need to know?

Ask your questions at a FREE Phone Consultation.

What else do you need to know? Ask your questions at a FREE Phone Consultation.

Frequently Asked Questions

My partner doesn't think that we need a Couples Relationship Tune-up. How do I help them understand that this will be good for us, even if we aren't on the brink of divorce?

Couples often don’t agree on how to keep their love strong. There are so many options. A Couples Relationship Tune-up is a preventative tool that sets you up for success. One strategy is to ask them to be curious and skeptical but participate in a free Phone Consultation to learn more. Sometimes, they need to know more specifics before committing to a process.

My spouse doesn't like to talk. I'm afraid they won't talk about our problems.

Couples Therapy is the perfect combination of safe space and encouragement to talk openly. Many people, who otherwise wouldn’t talk, are able to finally share their thoughts and feelings. If this is a concern you have, let me know and I will help put both of you at ease.

Do we need to be married to get a Couples Relationship Tune-up?

Any couple (or other relationship configuration) can get a Relationship Tune-up regardless of their marital or legal status.

How do we get started?

1. Schedule a FREE Phone Consultation. After scheduling, watch for a confirmation email. It directs you to the Pre-Call Questionnaire. Attend the call as a couple or one of you can learn all the details. During the call, ask any questions that you have and learn more about how a Couples Relationship Tune-up can help you. If it’s a good fit for you, we’ll schedule your first appointment while we’re on the phone.
2. Before the first initial therapy appointment, sign the consent documents which give permission for your therapist to work with you.
3. Complete the 3-session Couples Relationship Checkup.
4. Set goals that fit your situation.

Will our insurance cover a Couples Relationship Tune-up?

Only your insurance can answer this question. Traditional medical insurance doesn’t always value preventative work. However, you can learn about your insurance by calling them and asking: 1) do they cover couples counseling, 2) what are the costs, and 3) do they require that one partner have a diagnosis?