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Couples Reconciliation Therapy
Separation doesn't have to mean the end.
Are you tired of being in the same old cycle? It's time to break the pattern of separating and getting back together. Create a healthy relationship that will last.
Ready to get started? Schedule a FREE 15-minute Phone Consultation.
You're separated because you couldn't take it anymore.
- You were bringing out the worst in one another.
- The arguing was out of control.
- The hurt was too much to bear.
- Some actions were just too much to put behind you.
- You couldn't reach an agreement about basic issues.
- One of you had an affair.
- The trust was broken and it felt like it couldn't be repaired.
- You were disgusted by the example that you were setting for your kids.
- Your needs had been ignored for too long.
- It felt like you wanted different things.
Ending the relationship broke your heart.
- It's too embarrassing to talk about.
- Your partner avoids the discussion.
- You feel like your partner blames you for being "defective."
- You end up feeling rejected and worthless.
- Discussing it makes you feel angry, resentful, and alone.
- You make a plan but don't follow through.
- Things get better for a short time but fall right back into old patterns.
But...
There's a strong magnetic force that brings you back together again.
- Could you find the same passion with someone else?
- What would happen if they changed the way they say they have?
- Are you willing to sacrifice the good in the relationship?
- Is this the best thing for the kids?
- Other couples can reinvent their relationship--could we?
Ready to get to work? Schedule a Free Phone Consultation today.
In your heart, you believe that you can be good together. You want marriage 2.0.
- You want the good parts without the same struggles.
- You can't blindly trust and need help rebuilding.
- Since you separated, some things have gotten better between you. You want to continue communicating better, having better boundaries, and being more consideration.
- You still have problems to solve and you're not sure you can find win-win solutions.
- You want to KNOW that the relationship will survive AND be healthy, fulfilling, and satisfying.
- You're worried that your family and friends won't support you unless you can SHOW them that things are really different this time.
If you're ready for a new relationship, schedule a Free Phone Consultation to learn how Couples Reconcilliation Therapy can help.
You want a new relationship. You need a new plan.
Together, we will:
- assess the strengths and challenges in the relationship.
- create a roadmap of relationship work for “before reconciliation” and “after reconciliation.” The work doesn’t end when you move back in together.
- implement the steps to rebuild your “second marriage” with your first spouse. We’ll brainstorm and troubleshoot each step. You will be clear on what you need to finish before moving onto the next step.
- confront and repair the issues that tore you apart so you won’t repeat them in the future.
- learn the missing skills to:
- effectively talk about your different needs.
- creatively solve problems to find win-win solutions.
- repair old relationship injuries.
- make relationship agreements that keep you both safe.
You don’t have to fumble your way through uncharted territory.
You aren’t asking for “too much.”
You can claim the relationship that you long for.
If you're going to "try again," you need to do it right. It's time to break the old cycles and create a new, healthier relationship.
Ready to get started? Schedule a FREE 15-minute Phone Consultation.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do we get started?
1. Schedule a Free Phone Consultation. After scheduling, watch for a confirmation email. It directs you to the Pre-Call Questionnaire. Attend the call as a couple or one of you can learn all the details. During the call, ask any questions that you have and learn more about how Couples Reconciliation Therapy can help you. If it’s what you need, we’ll schedule your first appointment while we’re on the phone.
2. Before the initial appointment, sign the consent documents which give permission for your therapist to work with you.
3. Complete the 3-session Couples Relationship Checkup.
4. Set goals that fit your situation.
What if my partner doesn't want to participate?
Reconciliation Counseling only works if both partners want to “try again.” Without commitment from each partner, you can’t create something new. Without your partner, you’ll get better results from Individual Relationship Counseling instead.
How can I know if Reconciliation Counseling will work for us?
Start with a Couples Relationship Checkup. It will help you understand what needs to change to have a different relationship. During the Checkup wrap-up, you will have enough information to make an educated decision about the future of this relationship.
I'm still so angry. Can I still do Reconciliation Counseling or do I have to forgive first?
You are hanging on to anger to avoid getting hurt again. You can start the work of Reconciliation Counseling when you are still angry. The work of re-establishing boundaries, changing behaviors, and making repairs will make it easier to let go of the anger.
My partner had an affair. Will this process help us rebuild after an affair?
Yes. Many couples separate after learning of an affair. After the dust settles, they re-evaluate whether the relationship is worth saving. After experiencing an affair, you MUST create a new relationship.
Getting back together, we want a totally different relationship. Can this process help us change the rules?
This is exactly the process you need to change the structure. Reconciliation Counseling helps you re-examine all parts of the relationship. Additionally, it works well for developing a non-traditional relationships including open, non-monogamous, and poly structures.