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Neurodiverse Couples Therapy

Building Connections, Celebrating Differences

You’ve always known that you and your partner operate differently in the world. You just see things in polar opposite ways. At first, you reveled in each other’s quirks. As your relationship deepened and life became more complicated, these difference started causing problems.
You’re at the stage when you need your joint life to run more smoothly. The arguments and silence, miscommunications and misunderstandings are getting in the way.
You need a translator. Someone who understands how neurodiversity shows up in your relationship.
Being neurodiverse is a challenge, but it doesn't have to negatively impact your relationship. We can show you how to work together.
Neurodiverse couple walking on a trail and smiling at each other.
You’ve been to therapy before. Because they didn’t address neurodiversity, your relationship didn’t improve. Instead:
It’s not that you didn’t try–it just didn’t work for you. You wondered if your relationship was beyond hope. Yet, you love one another.

We specialize in supporting neurodiverse couples to thrive together. Schedule a FREE Phone Consultation to learn how Neurodiverse Couples Therapy can help you.

Neurodiversity takes many forms. Some commonly identified neurodiversities are Autism, ADHD, Learning Differences, and Highly Sensitive Persons. You might both have a neurodiversity or only one of you. Either way, it has profound effects on your relationship. At the core, it means that you and your partner have different experiences in the same situations. It affects:
Using two different “operating systems” can cause intense clashes or deafening distance. Even defining the problem is something you don’t agree on.
Couple playing a board game. The woman is holding up her hand as her partner knocks her piece off the board. The man is smiling.

Need help navigating the differences between you? Schedule a FREE Phone Consultation to learn more about Neurodiverse Couples Therapy.

All couples have to negotiate their differences. In your relationship, it feels like the differences are insurmountable. When you can’t “figure it out” together, it can lead to some dysfunctional and troubling relationship patterns:

Over time, the problems build up and feel like they define the relationship.

Couple enjoying each others company drinking wine

Your relationship deserves specialized care. Work with a therapist who will recognize the true cause of dysfunctional patterns in your relationship. Schedule a FREE Phone Consultation today!

Therapy shouldn't make it worse or be "neutral at best." You deserve help that will make your relationship fundamentally better.

Many therapists aren’t trained to recognize adult autism. Even when it’s labeled, neurodiversity can affect every part of your relationship. A skillful clinician will be able to identify and understand that neurodiversity is a difference, not a deficit, and help you negotiate those differences.

Couple enjoying some breakfast together. The woman is looking lovingly at the man while he cuts the sausage on his plate.
Couple hugging each other and smiling

Working with a specially trained therapist, you will:

Instead of seeing differences as a problem, you'll learn to revel in the differences. You'll co-create a relationship that truly fits who each of you are.

Couple working together in the kitchen to make a meal.

Ready to get started? Schedule a FREE Phone Consultation today!

Not every couple needs the same things. In couples therapy, we will begin with a Couples Relationship Checkup which is a good assessment of the relationship. You’ll explore the path that got you here and identify the problematic patterns of interactions. We’ll use that information to create a relationship roadmap that meets your unique needs.
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Frequently Asked Questions

Do you have experience working with Neurodiverse Couples?

My style of working with couples has always focused on the nuts and bolts of how to get along. I’ve worked with many couples where one partner had a diagnosed or undiagnosed neurodiversity. I’ve also completed the Neurodiverse Couples Therapy Certification through AANE.

I think that my partner might be neurodiverse, but they aren't willing to even talk about it. Can you help them consider their differences or help us without labeling them?

In the past, it’s been rare for adults to be diagnosed with a neurodiversity. It was believed that only children could receive the diagnosis. In fact, diagnosis focused on only the most extreme behaviors. It’s becoming more common for adults to seek a diagnosis, but many people worry about negative repercussions or stigma attached to it. I work from a neurodiverse lens with all couples, whether they have a diagnosis or not. Instead of looking for a label, we may talk about how you each operate differently in the world, which often gets to the same place.

Do we need to be married to go to Couples Therapy?

Any couple (or other relationship constellation) can go to Couples Therapy regardless of their marital or legal status.

What if my partner doesn't want to participate?

Usually there is one partner who is more reluctant to get help.  Sometimes, they are willing to do a Couples Relationship Checkup because it’s limited to three sessions.  If they are absolutely against participating, consider Individual Relationship Counseling instead.

How do we get started?

1. Schedule a FREE Phone Consultation. After scheduling, watch for a confirmation email.  It directs you to the Pre-Call Questionnaire. Attend the call as a couple or one of you can learn all the details.  During the call, ask any questions that you have and learn more about how Couples Therapy can help you.  If Therapy is what you need, we’ll schedule your first appointment while we’re on the phone.
2. Before the first initial therapy appointment, sign the consent documents which give permission for your therapist to work with you.
3. Complete the 3-session Couples Relationship Checkup
4. Set goals that fit your situation.

Schedule a FREE 15-minute Phone Consultation to learn more about Neurodiverse Couples Therapy.

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